Being a Man is Worth Losing a Friend

Recently I wrote an article for Focus on the Family via one of their ministries called, “Boundless.” They decided to publish it on February 14th, which I’m told by those in the know refer to as “Valentine’s Day.” You can read the full article here.


“Some years ago, I sat down with a longtime friend and told her I was romantically interested in her. I was physically attracted to her, liked her ambition, and valued her more than the other women my life.

She never spoke to me again.

I believe Scripture is clear on relationships. It’s the man’s role to make his intentions to a woman apparent and the woman’s to either accept or reject his advances. It’s not always fun to be the man (OK sometimes it’s fun) but the end result is worth the effort. The Bible tells us an excellent wife is more precious even than jewels (Proverbs 31:10, ESV).

The young lady I referred to earlier was a friend whom I’d known for years. In fact, we’d been exceptionally good friends and had developed an attraction we both acknowledged. So one evening over dinner, I acted upon it.”

Click here to read the full article.